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Blended Families Holiday Memories

Molly Wilder, Certified Divorce Coach from Idaho, was our guest this week and boy did she give us a holiday story that stopped us in our tracks!  Molly shared her divorce story first: She had seven children (3 biological and 4 adopted), belonged to a church that didn’t approve of divorce, and, was a stay-at-home […]
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Adele: I Needed an Outlet for the Pain

This episode about Adele’s divorce was about the inner struggles of divorce, the emotional journey, not the legal one. Adele was interviewed by Oprah and the interview aired earlier this month. The cool thing about this interview was that it was woven throughout clips of Adele’s concert in Los Angeles at the Griffith Observatory, on […]
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7 Levels of Emotional Energy

Karen McMahon, Certified Divorce Coach, was our guest this week on THE Amicable Divorce Expert podcast and she focused on the importance of knowing the 7 Levels of Emotional Energy. Not only is it important for divorce professionals – attorneys, mediators, paralegals, and judges – to understand these levels so that they can understand their […]
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Healthy Money is Happy Money

“Our upbringing guides our views on money,” explained Jonathan Satovsky, CFA, Chief Financial Coach, and President of Satovsky Asset Management. In Jonathan’s case his parents divorced and remarried; his dad remarried twice. He saw his mother financially vulnerable throughout his young life so he focused on being financially strong and independent as a result of […]
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Sometimes Children Aren’t Heard

It was a pleasure to discover Catharine Blake, Certified Divorce Coach and Child Psychotherapist, and an honor that she agreed to an interview. Her episode is posted this week on this website. https://judyweigle.podbean.com/e/effects-of-divorce-on-children-with-catharine-blake-cdc-psychotherapist/ There aren’t enough people in the divorce coaching arena who also specialize in child therapy.  It’s a special skill and art to […]
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Sheen/Richards: How Modifications Work in Child Support and Custody

I like taking celebrity divorces and using aspects of their settlement to explain how those issues work in any divorce.  In the case of Charlie Sheen and Denise Richards, we learned that there was a recent court ruling modifying child support, the co-parenting schedule, and custody. So what happened and how does this work? Sheen […]
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Emotionally Divorce your Married Self to Grow After Divorce

Julie Turner, Life Coach, our guest this week on THE Amicable Divorce Expert podcast gave us a great idea to ponder: Emotionally divorce the person you became in the marriage that just ended so that you can grow into the person that is more authentically you. I hadn’t heard this before, and it makes so […]
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Spousal Support: Til Death Do Us Part

Spousal Support (aka Alimony) is one of the toughest conversations to have in a divorce settlement. Why? Because it continues to connect the spouses even after the divorce is final.  Divorce is a financial transaction that sets each spouse up to be independent financial entities. Except for spousal support.  Spousal support continues to connect the […]
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Divorce Fear Specific to Men

After interviewing John Nachlinger, Esq., Divorce Coach for Men, Mediator and Divorce Shield podcast host on this week’s episode of THE Amicable Divorce Expert podcast, I was very clear about a few things: Men are an underserved community in the world of divorce, and need a divorce coach as much as women do, who have […]
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Lead By Example

LEAD BY EXAMPLE I interviewed Sarah Armstrong for this week’s podcast.  She authored a book titled The Mom’s Guide to a Good Divorce.  Sarah wrote it to fill the void in the divorce book community, which was a simple, easy book to read that was brief yet poignant, topic-driven, and addressed every issue that she […]
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Sole Custody = Control

The greatest fear of any loving parent going through divorce is that their soon-to-be ex will get sole custody and shut them out of parenting. Men, especially, fear sole custody.  The question becomes why one parent would not want the other parent to participate in loving and raising their children.  Let’s look at the range […]
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Mental Illness Comes in Different Shapes and Sizes in Divorce

I am not a teacher of mental illness; I am an observer and a student of this disease.  Never before did I think about mental illness until I started to work in the field of general mediation, and then divorce mediation. What I noticed when I entered the practice of mediation is that many people […]
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Culture Can Have An Influence on Civil Divorce Settlements

When a client with a cultural background outside of the American culture calls to file for divorce I typically ask, “What do I need to know about your culture that may affect the divorce settlement?”  I ask because even though divorce is a civil law matter, I realize that people bring their cultures with them […]
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Should I Stay or Should I Go?

The Erika Jayne & Tom Girardi divorce is quite different than the usual run-of-the-mill contentious divorce.  This one really is a Circus, a Horse of a Different Color, with anyone working on this case risking their heads if they put it in the Lion’s Mouth of the legal system.  Where is Honesty, that Elephant in […]
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Marriage Success for Children of Divorce

Our interview this week was with Dr. Lydia Hughes-Evan, Ed.D., a child of parental separation; not quite a divorce, but with the same arrangement as a divorce.  She lived in a one-parent household with her mother, and had visitation time with her father.  Her parents didn’t speak to one another.  Lydia’s parents never divorced because […]
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No Comment – Now

Picture this, you’re at work, you’re in the middle of a divorce, and you see angry, demanding, disturbing emails and texts from your spouse.  Dilema; what to do?  Respond? Don’t respond? How to respond? Be apologetic or subservient in response out of fear that your spouse will be even more upset? Respond in the same […]
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Are You a Prisoner of Your Own Wealth?

What do you do when you’ve lived a lifestyle based on your spouse’s wealth and less on your own, and you’ve made wealth a defining aspect of who you are?  Wealth comes and goes, so does this mean that your value comes and goes? If you’re a prisoner of your wealth, meaning that what you’re […]
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Authenticity is Gold

How much wealth do you have to have to be as wealthy as your other cast mates on a Bravo reality Housewives show?  No one knows the answer because no one really knows how much wealth each person has, or how their wealth was and still is being earned. When Erika “Jayne” Girardi joined the […]
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Timing Is Everything

When I was with the circus timing was everything: I watched how important split-second timing was for acrobatic acts, the timing of a dangerous act like the tightrope walker or the Lion & Tiger acts; the timing of a clown gag; the timing of scheduling cities to perform in as we were a large tented […]
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Divorce and Life After Divorce

There’s divorce, and then there’s life after divorce.  Anyone who has gone through divorce knows that the lead-up to divorce has it’s own challenges; we call this the Emotional Divorce. Next is the filing for divorce, which includes the decisions necessary for a settlement agreement; we call this the Legal Divorce.  Once this circus of […]
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Is Your Self-Esteem Suffering?

Our episode this week on The Amicable Divorce Expert podcast is on Individuation, an evolving process by which we define who we are and how we want to live, even if it means losing some of our relationships. Our guest, Anthony Metten, a TedX Speaker, Podcast Host, and Coach takes on Individuation in his businesses. […]
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The Good Karma Divorce

When I was with the Circus I lived among families of many different cultures and a few different religions. Because we lived together and worked together, we operated like one giant family: We were nice one day, argued the next, and back to being nice again because the show had to go on.  If there […]
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Celebrity Divorces as Performance Art

Celebrity Divorces are the same as ours only with more zeros to their bank accounts and many more Instagram followers, plus a public relations image that must be preserved. Other than this, celebrity divorces are either amicable or fraught with conflict. So it is with Jeff Bezos and Bill Gates: Bezos’ divorce was amicable and […]
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Silver Lining in Divorce

After you get your head out of the lion’s mouth, and change into a different emotional costume, one that suits you a lot better than that of a hunted animal, you can morph into the new you. The Silver Lining in any divorce is that with as great a life change as divorce is, it […]
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Are You Committing Financial Infidelity?

Divorce is a financial lawsuit, and money is the #1 culprit. When we mishandle money, lie about what we spend, or spend on things that aren’t necessary when we need to be on a budget, we have betrayed ourselves and our spouses. We have committed Financial Infidelity. When people get divorced they are highly emotional. […]
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TO LITIGATE or MEDIATE? WHAT‘S BETTER FOR YOU?

In speaking with Attorney, Mediator and Author, Gabrielle Hartley on the February 17th episode of Constructive Uncoupling, we learned that Court brings out the worst in people but sometimes it’s the only way to get a divorce.  There was a time when Gabrielle worked with a family law Judge in New York and became his […]
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Are You Biologically Designed For Lasting Relationships?

Are You Biologically Designed for Lasting Relationships? Anastasia Makhanova, Ph.D., Social Psychologist shed light on people’s ability to get into a lasting relationship that embodied the three aspects of a healthy one:  Gratitude, Trust, and Forgiveness.  It just may be your CD38 gene and not primarily you!  Anastasia’s research showed that the CD38 gene has these […]
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Life (and Divorce) Happen FOR You, Not To You

Life (and Divorce) Happen FOR You, Not To You That’s a quote by Tony Robbins, the personal and business coach, self-help author of many books, and a motivational speaker.  The first two books being “Unlimited Power” and “Awaken the Giant Within”.  I read those books in the 80’s and 90’s.  Both were written to show […]
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Are You Living in Divorce Fear? Reality and Knowledge will Set You Free

ARE YOU LIVING in Divorce FEAR? Reality will set you FREE In divorce, people live with Fear over so many things: living alone, money, not seeing the children as much, worrying that children might get hurt with the other parent, basic survival.  The daily communication with our spouses, the words we choose and the tone […]
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Divorce Style with Holly Katz

The episode posted on March 24th with Holly Katz, Fashion Stylist, was born of an article in the Wall Street Journal, “Forget Wedding Dresses. Divorce Style Has Arrived” with a picture of Marilyn Monroe leaving the courthouse in 1954 after filing for divorce from her then husband baseball legend Joe DiMaggio.  Fashion changes throughout time […]
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Life Journey Rebrand

We all reach a point in our lives that requires a change.  Divorce is one of those life events.  This is a perfect time to revise, look back, and decide what we want to change to live a different life. We first start with our personal lives.  What can we modify to express ourselves differently, […]
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Dividing Difficult Assets & Debts

Dividing Difficult Assets & Debts Having a lot of money and assets is so much fun until you get divorced.  Then, the weight of your riches can be an albatross.  That’s why using professionals like forensic accountants, real estate attorneys, and experienced family law attorneys are expenses that are necessary for financial survival. The biggest […]
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Reclaiming Your Power Through Empathy and Compassion

Reading from The Good Karma Divorce, April 15, 2019 Former Judge Michele Lowrance, now author of The Good Karma Divorce, combines her legal background in family law with her Buddhist beliefs to show anyone going through divorce the power of empathy and compassion. Her book takes you through the process of turning negative emotions into […]
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Changing the Settlement Power Imbalance

Changing  the Settlement Power Imbalance When couples divorce, and they engage in settlement talks, their ability to create a settlement agreement is based on the power dynamic that existed in their marriage.  The power dynamic can be a very equal one in which the couple easily made decisions together, or the power dynamic can be […]
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Co-Parenting with a Narcissist is like Walking a Tightrope

  There are five high conflict personality types: Borderline, Narcissistic, Paranoid, Antisocial, and Histrionic. All are hard to engage with in a legal dispute and in co-parenting. The more prevalent personality type currently is narcissistic. But in each of the personality types is a common thread of control and abandonment. The expression of the disorder […]
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Honesty is the Elephant in the Room

Addressing our part in the dissolution of a marriage, if it is a normal marriage in which both spouses have some level of culpability and responsibility, is the most freeing thing you could ever do because honesty does set you free.  When we’re honest about our level of responsibility, we can stop lying that it […]
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