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Divorce and Life After Divorce

There’s divorce, and then there’s life after divorce.  Anyone who has gone through divorce knows that the lead-up to divorce has it’s own challenges; we call this the Emotional Divorce. Next is the filing for divorce, which includes the decisions necessary for a settlement agreement; we call this the Legal Divorce.  Once this circus of […]
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Is Your Self-Esteem Suffering?

Our episode this week on The Amicable Divorce Expert podcast is on Individuation, an evolving process by which we define who we are and how we want to live, even if it means losing some of our relationships. Our guest, Anthony Metten, a TedX Speaker, Podcast Host, and Coach takes on Individuation in his businesses. […]
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The Good Karma Divorce

When I was with the Circus I lived among families of many different cultures and a few different religions. Because we lived together and worked together, we operated like one giant family: We were nice one day, argued the next, and back to being nice again because the show had to go on.  If there […]
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Celebrity Divorces as Performance Art

Celebrity Divorces are the same as ours only with more zeros to their bank accounts and many more Instagram followers, plus a public relations image that must be preserved. Other than this, celebrity divorces are either amicable or fraught with conflict. So it is with Jeff Bezos and Bill Gates: Bezos’ divorce was amicable and […]
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Silver Lining in Divorce

After you get your head out of the lion’s mouth, and change into a different emotional costume, one that suits you a lot better than that of a hunted animal, you can morph into the new you. The Silver Lining in any divorce is that with as great a life change as divorce is, it […]
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Are You Committing Financial Infidelity?

Divorce is a financial lawsuit, and money is the #1 culprit. When we mishandle money, lie about what we spend, or spend on things that aren’t necessary when we need to be on a budget, we have betrayed ourselves and our spouses. We have committed Financial Infidelity. When people get divorced they are highly emotional. […]
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TO LITIGATE or MEDIATE? WHAT‘S BETTER FOR YOU?

In speaking with Attorney, Mediator and Author, Gabrielle Hartley on the February 17th episode of Constructive Uncoupling, we learned that Court brings out the worst in people but sometimes it’s the only way to get a divorce.  There was a time when Gabrielle worked with a family law Judge in New York and became his […]
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Are You Biologically Designed For Lasting Relationships?

Are You Biologically Designed for Lasting Relationships? Anastasia Makhanova, Ph.D., Social Psychologist shed light on people’s ability to get into a lasting relationship that embodied the three aspects of a healthy one:  Gratitude, Trust, and Forgiveness.  It just may be your CD38 gene and not primarily you!  Anastasia’s research showed that the CD38 gene has these […]
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Life (and Divorce) Happen FOR You, Not To You

Life (and Divorce) Happen FOR You, Not To You That’s a quote by Tony Robbins, the personal and business coach, self-help author of many books, and a motivational speaker.  The first two books being “Unlimited Power” and “Awaken the Giant Within”.  I read those books in the 80’s and 90’s.  Both were written to show […]
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Are You Living in Divorce Fear? Reality and Knowledge will Set You Free

ARE YOU LIVING in Divorce FEAR? Reality will set you FREE In divorce, people live with Fear over so many things: living alone, money, not seeing the children as much, worrying that children might get hurt with the other parent, basic survival.  The daily communication with our spouses, the words we choose and the tone […]
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Divorce Style with Holly Katz

The episode posted on March 24th with Holly Katz, Fashion Stylist, was born of an article in the Wall Street Journal, “Forget Wedding Dresses. Divorce Style Has Arrived” with a picture of Marilyn Monroe leaving the courthouse in 1954 after filing for divorce from her then husband baseball legend Joe DiMaggio.  Fashion changes throughout time […]
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Life Journey Rebrand

We all reach a point in our lives that requires a change.  Divorce is one of those life events.  This is a perfect time to revise, look back, and decide what we want to change to live a different life. We first start with our personal lives.  What can we modify to express ourselves differently, […]
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Dividing Difficult Assets & Debts

Dividing Difficult Assets & Debts Having a lot of money and assets is so much fun until you get divorced.  Then, the weight of your riches can be an albatross.  That’s why using professionals like forensic accountants, real estate attorneys, and experienced family law attorneys are expenses that are necessary for financial survival. The biggest […]
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Reclaiming Your Power Through Empathy and Compassion

Reading from The Good Karma Divorce, April 15, 2019 Former Judge Michele Lowrance, now author of The Good Karma Divorce, combines her legal background in family law with her Buddhist beliefs to show anyone going through divorce the power of empathy and compassion. Her book takes you through the process of turning negative emotions into […]
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Changing the Settlement Power Imbalance

Changing  the Settlement Power Imbalance When couples divorce, and they engage in settlement talks, their ability to create a settlement agreement is based on the power dynamic that existed in their marriage.  The power dynamic can be a very equal one in which the couple easily made decisions together, or the power dynamic can be […]
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Co-Parenting with a Narcissist is like Walking a Tightrope

  There are five high conflict personality types: Borderline, Narcissistic, Paranoid, Antisocial, and Histrionic. All are hard to engage with in a legal dispute and in co-parenting. The more prevalent personality type currently is narcissistic. But in each of the personality types is a common thread of control and abandonment. The expression of the disorder […]
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Honesty is the Elephant in the Room

Addressing our part in the dissolution of a marriage, if it is a normal marriage in which both spouses have some level of culpability and responsibility, is the most freeing thing you could ever do because honesty does set you free.  When we’re honest about our level of responsibility, we can stop lying that it […]
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