Archive of month: 2021

In speaking with Attorney, Mediator and Author, Gabrielle Hartley on the February 17th episode of Constructive Uncoupling, we learned that Court brings out the worst in people but sometimes it’s the only way to get a divorce.  There was a time when Gabrielle worked with a family law Judge in New York and became his […]

Are You Biologically Designed for Lasting Relationships? Anastasia Makhanova, Ph.D., Social Psychologist shed light on people’s ability to get into a lasting relationship that embodied the three aspects of a healthy one:  Gratitude, Trust, and Forgiveness.  It just may be your CD38 gene and not primarily you!  Anastasia’s research showed that the CD38 gene has these […]

Life (and Divorce) Happen FOR You, Not To You That’s a quote by Tony Robbins, the personal and business coach, self-help author of many books, and a motivational speaker.  The first two books being “Unlimited Power” and “Awaken the Giant Within”.  I read those books in the 80’s and 90’s.  Both were written to show […]

ARE YOU LIVING in Divorce FEAR? Reality will set you FREE In divorce, people live with Fear over so many things: living alone, money, not seeing the children as much, worrying that children might get hurt with the other parent, basic survival.  The daily communication with our spouses, the words we choose and the tone […]

The episode posted on March 24th with Holly Katz, Fashion Stylist, was born of an article in the Wall Street Journal, “Forget Wedding Dresses. Divorce Style Has Arrived” with a picture of Marilyn Monroe leaving the courthouse in 1954 after filing for divorce from her then husband baseball legend Joe DiMaggio.  Fashion changes throughout time […]

We all reach a point in our lives that requires a change.  Divorce is one of those life events.  This is a perfect time to revise, look back, and decide what we want to change to live a different life. We first start with our personal lives.  What can we modify to express ourselves differently, […]

Dividing Difficult Assets & Debts Having a lot of money and assets is so much fun until you get divorced.  Then, the weight of your riches can be an albatross.  That’s why using professionals like forensic accountants, real estate attorneys, and experienced family law attorneys are expenses that are necessary for financial survival. The biggest […]

Reading from The Good Karma Divorce, April 15, 2019 Former Judge Michele Lowrance, now author of The Good Karma Divorce, combines her legal background in family law with her Buddhist beliefs to show anyone going through divorce the power of empathy and compassion. Her book takes you through the process of turning negative emotions into […]

Changing  the Settlement Power Imbalance When couples divorce, and they engage in settlement talks, their ability to create a settlement agreement is based on the power dynamic that existed in their marriage.  The power dynamic can be a very equal one in which the couple easily made decisions together, or the power dynamic can be […]

Interview with Bill Eddy, January 8, 2020 High Conflict Personalities (HCP) come in five groups: Borderline, Narcissistic, Paranoid, Antisocial, and Histrionic. How do you know if you’re married to an HCP. Well, the first thing is that there always seems to be conflict, even in situations that should be easy and simple. Decisions for something […]