Archive of month: 2023

A very dear friend who is a psychotherapist, Dr. Kathy Memel, uses the family tree to unlock the lessons we learned in our families of origin. Understanding where our behavior came from especially inso far as it relates to the way we choose relationships and the way we behave in relationships, is critical to our […]

Have you heard the phrase “Don’t drive angry” from the movie Groundhog Day starring Bill Murray that was out many years ago? Well, the same could be said about the display of anger in a divorce mediation: Don’t Mediate Angry. As I researched anger for the podcast episode this week, I learned that there is […]

Listen Here:  https://judyweigle.podbean.com/e/how-to-negotiate-support/ I.               Spousal Support a.     Even though child support is considered more important than spousal support/alimony, spousal support is much harder to deal with both for the spouses and the legal professionals who provide service: Attorneys, Mediators, Divorce Coaches, Document Preparation person, Therapists. b.     Spousal support was created in the late 1800’s when […]

Listen Here:  https://judyweigle.podbean.com/e/can-anyone-take-the-high-road-in-divorce-wandy-heller-author-businessman/ We’ve all heard people talk about Taking the High Road. “I’m just going to take the high road.” That sometimes infers a bit of ego in the self-satisfaction that the speaker has or is making better choices than the person with whom they are in disagreement. Taking the High Road involves two […]

There are the Parenting Plans, which are tough enough to create and maintain, and there are the Parenting Relationships which are even more challenging to amicably develop. Why? Because the tone of the marriage, and subsequently the tone of the divorce, dictates the tone of the Parenting Relationship. This is why it’s so incredibly important […]

Listen Here: https://judyweigle.podbean.com/e/compartmentalize-emotion/ The difference between an amicable and an acrimonious divorce is how each spouse feels about their soon-to-be ex, and how they manage and express their emotions. That’s why grieving before filing is so important. There are seven stages to divorce grief: Shock, Denial, Anger, Bargaining, Depression, Acceptance, Forgiveness. When you’ve reach Acceptance, […]

https://judyweigle.podbean.com/e/dishonesty-is-the-d-word-in-divorce/ Divorce is fraught with fear. People go from trusting each other to feeling like they don’t know each other once the divorce conversation takes place. Then they start either misreading each other, or drawing inaccurate conclusions about the way their spouse may want to approach anything from the financial discussion that is a necessary […]

https://judyweigle.podbean.com/e/did-you-marry-the-wrong-person-wcoach-carrie-cohen-psychotherapist/ In Episode 244 with Coach Carrie Cohen, Marriage Coach and Psychotherapist we explored the situation of marrying the wrong person. A national average from the Department of Labor Statistics states that 50% of us are divorced from our first marriages. But it gets worse: 60% of second marriages and 70% of third marriages end […]

https://judyweigle.podbean.com/e/the-secret-power-of-forgiveness/ Forgiveness is one of the 7 Stages of Divorce Grief.  It’s the last stage before a person’s life can truly turn around. Here are the 7 Stages: Shock, Denial, Anger, Bargaining, Depression, Acceptance, Forgiveness. The first five are obvious for people going through divorce. The last two are the most positive stages and serve […]